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How To Look After Yourself
Life is filled with challenges and opportunities. Each challenge or opportunity must be faced with a calm attitude. Actually the issue one considers a challenge may not be a challenge but since one did not have the peace within the real picture was not seen.
Take for instance a job that has some dead lines to be met. First one has to prioritize that job with others. That is to say, in case there are more jobs each vying the other for completion, you have to extricate yourself from any sort of punishing schedule or you would end up sick. A failing health will slow down all jobs no matter how important cause then the only job would be, to get well soon.
Looking after yourself would be the main and most important task that cannot be completed as long as you live. The reason being all other jobs are done by you – so being true to yourself is the only way to live.
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not. This means that you can reach out to others but only to the extent that it does not change who you are. Like Mother Teresa says “Love until it hurts” Once it hurts it ceases to be love. Give as much as you can – you cannot give everything. We are all only limited beings and not unlimited. Our limits have to be set by our own selves. All the hum-bug talk of living without principles and limits to giving and taking is really shallow. Can giving bribes be a good way to look after yourself? Same goes for all the malpractices that have eroded mans mentality.
As everyone is unique responsibilities too are unique. The responsibilities change with time. At a younger age, usually your own work of going to your place of study and other such exercises along with helping parents are the only responsibilities. But as you grow, that changes into responsibilities of your kids, their study, their other exercises and everything to do with them. These changes may not be deliberate but natural still there is a definite shift of perspective.
All such shifts of perspective are actually changes that are deep inside us and natural. When these changes are implemented there will be a lot of obstacles to be faced. You might come up with people who do not like having to accept the change. Some may even call you names. I should know, because all my shifts have always resulted in name slinging. Some have called me evil, devil, sadistic, mad and even a culprit of the worst sort.
Looking through all these names I can see that these people do not look at themselves to see how much they have shifted and changed. They do not see that others are just mirror reflection of their own selves. When they loved, they loved their own imagination of me and when they hated they hate their own imagination of me. I was not the person they loved so it is obvious I am not the one they hate. No one can know the heart of any human because no one has known their own heart which is just one foot away from their brain. So rest assured that the ones who call you a devil must be a devil to know what it is to be one. Only a jaundiced person can see everything yellow.
The best way to understand the universe is to realize that we are limited and so, prone to change. With every change something is lost and something gained. The ones we have lost may not be ready to leave which is why we encounter name slinging. But no one need bother about this even if the name slinging goes on for years and years. It only means that there are people who love you for what you are not. We are not walking advertisements, so lets forget about such unreal people and stay grounded.
Do not forget your parents ever. Being thankful to your parents for teaching you the first lessons of looking after yourself is your strongest foundation that no one can ever take away from you. Consider yourself blessed if you are brought up by others along with your parents.
Always remember it is better to suffer the truth than to be rewarded for a lie. It is better to show hate than to force yourself to show a love you do not feel. You are all you have got. Being true to yourself is the best way to look after yourself.
Bhuvaneswari Calambakkam